You’ve been with your significant other for years. For quite some time, you’ve thought you were going to marry this person, settle down, and start a family in the near future with them. But one day, you wake up and realize you want to explore life on your own and all of a sudden, you don’t want that life you had dreamed up anymore. And that is okay. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re wrong. If it’s what you think is right for you, then do it. There are several things that change after you get out of a long-term relationship. But when you go from ooey gooey love to the single life, your perspective changes on a lot of things, like:
- BABIES. Back when you were picturing settling down, you loved everything about babies. Their clothes, their faces, even the not-so-adorable things that babies do like crying and puking made you all warm and fuzzy inside every time you came in contact with. You dreamt about what your kids were going to look like and what you were going to name them. But now, you see babies in an entirely new light. Yes, they’re still cute… sometimes. And you want one…. someday. But you see now that babies are a lot of work and honestly, they kind of stink and are really loud. You have places to go and people to see and don’t even want to think about having kids any time soon, or possibly ever. Yes, of course you still want to babysit for your friends who have kids, because you still love babies, you just definitely do not want one.
- TRAVEL. When you were trying to plan for 2, trips were almost impossible. It was too much money and you could never quite find a time when you could both get off work. But now that you have nobody else to plan for and wait on, you can go wherever you want, whenever you want. You now have a big list of places you want to see, and it doesn’t matter if you go alone or not, because this is your journey.
- EATING HABITS. When you’re in a committed relationship, you stop worrying about how much you eat, where your food comes from, or how many times a day you eat. Now, when you do happen to go on the occasional date, you have to remind yourself that you can’t eat food off your date’s plate unless they offer. This might be the only down side of being single. It was pretty nice that you could basically have 2 meals if you wanted. But also, now that you’re single, when you’re not on a date (so most of the time) you can make one pizza and eat the entire thing by yourself. And you shall.
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- GOING OUT. When you had a go-to person to make weekend plans with, you started to get into an unbreakable routine of “oh you can pick” or “let’s just stay in and watch netflix until we fall asleep in our popcorn”. Now that you’re single, you have options and don’t want or need predictability. You can go out and dance and party with your friends and not feel guilty for leaving your S\O at home. You are no longer content with Netflix and cuddling, you want adventure because, if you aren’t young and wild now, when else will you be?
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HOLIDAYS. You’ve always loved the holidays, and you always will. But when you started dating your ex, your family got used to them being around for birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, etc. and now that you’re single, they are undoubtedly ask “well what happened?” and “have you found someone else yet?” when you go home for the holidays. Your family doesn’t understand that you want to be single right now, and offer to set you up with co-worker’s kids. Regardless, this makes the holidays a little less exciting.
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You change. Life changes. Mindsets change. And that’s okay. Do what you need to do for you and everything else will fall into place.